The spouse has to express their love not just by showing it but also saying "I love you." (Nadia Homsi , 41, Chino Hills)

"Education, respect each other and ignore minor shortcomings" (Mansur Ahmad, 54, Moreno Valley)

Openness in all matters…truthfulness. Pray together, stay together."(Faisal Ali, 35, Riverside)

"Read the Quran, follow the Sunnah of the prophet, you don’t need anything else! Respect each one in the family, regardless of age." (Shaukat Faruk, 45, Garden Grove)

"Make sure that you spend quality time with each other and develop an understanding of each other’s own stresses and busy schedules. It’s also important to confront problems when they arise and to keep an honest relationship." (Setareh Shabafrooz, 25, Seattle)

"Study the Sunnah of the Prophet (AS) in regards to marriage and just follow that. Take a class on marriage who are learned in the Islamic law and have experience living in the West and Islamic manners and certain wisdoms. Learn patience and listen to your spouse. Learn when to say something and when not to engage in an argument." (Majeed Taher, 26, Westminister)

The most important thing is to make the right selection. Mutual understanding and compromise. (Maher Mouradi, Irvine, 45)

I feel that communication is key in any successful marriage or relationship. (Bassem Al Rashidi, 26, Anaheim)

"I think the best thing to do is use the Qur’an as your marriage counseling book. When you follow the steps, you don’t put your pride in the way. From the women’s standpoint, when you’re raised in America you the this mentality of 50/50 and let your pride get in front of you and you demand that the man should do this and this for me, the more you give, the more you receive from you husband. You have to know how the man was created and what his differences are from a woman. Once you understand that, then everything is more clear and less frustrating. The less you expect the more you get. So if you’re doing something for the will of Allah, you don’t expect more than that from that." (Nadia Etman, 28, Alta Dena)

"As far as the husband’s role would be participation in the day to day activities at home which a lot men term as the women’s job. Maybe something minor as dishwashing at times and then taking care of the kids." (Naseem Lone, 34, Fullerton)