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By Roqaya Ashmawey
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‘A few good men’ draws response
In response to last month’s article, "A Few Good Men: American Muslim Women Bemoan Lack of Good Male Suitors" by Sondos Kholoki-Kahf, I must express my gratitude for reporting about this unfortunate scenario experienced by many American Muslims, both male and female. Personally, as a male Muslim, I feel as if I need to marry quickly as well, knowing that women often do get "marriage fever" and marry early on in life. I’d like to marry someone close to my age for the sake of compatibility and for our future together. Therefore, as I get older, the chance of me finding a woman gets slimmer as they tend to marry for the sake of avoiding a "lifetime of loneliness," as the author put it. The search for the right spouse falls on both male and female shoulders. I’m sure women have a harder time, but I’ve had my share of troubles, too. Like Afaf, I find that they are either too Muslim, or not Muslim enough. However, I do commend her as well as any other Muslim women who do not sacrifice their goals for the sake of marriage. Rushing into a marriage with such a mentality spells disaster, and often leads to an unhappy marriage, which is another topic within the Muslim community altogether.Omar Jaber
Brooklyn, N.Y. |
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